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Self-Care, Worthiness and Shame

Is it hard for you to do for you what you do for others? Are you great taking care of others but so hard to take care of you? Or perhaps you think once I take care of everything and everyone and then I can relax and take care of myself! But that time never comes, you are simply exhausted! Why do we keep doing that even though we keep hearing how self-care is so important? I feel like we can't talk about self-care without having a talk about worthiness and shame. When we feel unworthy we feel like we don’t deserve to spend any resources to take care of ourselves.You may ask who am I to be taken care of? Self-love and self-care come from a place of worthiness, but if we believe that we are no

Why is self-care so hard?

1. Self-care has very little to do with “treating yourself.” Even though treating yourself can absolutely be part of your life, true self-care is "not salt baths and chocolate cake" as Brianna West says on her post Self-care is Very Unbeautiful Thing. True self-care is about making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure. If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a wh

Self-Care is a Very Unbeautiful Thing

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing. It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution. It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire

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